I have said that it’s not the people around us who have upset us, and that it’s not ourselves, but it’s our programming. And so you may ask, is it not the people who were around us who have programmed us when we were young?

Yes, they did. But they didn’t set out with any malice to do this to us. They’re the victims of what other people have done to them.

Again and again, people come to me who are so upset about their parents. They can’t forgive their parents; they hate their parents. All right, I understand. I’m not saying that your parents did right or they did wrong. Maybe they did wrong. But look, could you understand them? Because that’s what love is all about.  Love is not blaming others. Love is not judging others. Love is not condemning others. Love is understanding. Can you see that?

The Chinese have a saying that when the eye is unobstructed, the result is sight. When the ear is unobstructed, the result is hearing.. And when the heart is unobstructed, the result is joy and love.  It is a sobering thought that the finest act of love you can perform is not an act of service but an act of contemplation, of seeing. When you see people in their inner beauty and goodness you transform and create.

Can you understand how there’s so much goodwill in your parents, and so much helplessness, and so much programming, and so much confusion, and so much fear. Have you ever paused to understand this?

If you were to do this, your attitude would change into love and forgiveness, and you would discover to your joy that you are being transformed by this strangely loving attitude that arises within you and moves out through you to every living creature.