You Have to Discover It For Yourself

From The Way to Love by Anthony DeMello . . There is always someone to teach you things mechanical or scientific or mathematical like carpentry or algebra or chemistry, or intellectual things like literature or philosophy or athletic things like baseball or riding a bicycle or hi-tech things like operating a computer or a smart phone. But in the things that really matter, life, love, reality, God, no one can teach you a thing. All they can…

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The Day You See It, You’re Free

From Rediscovering Life by Anthony DeMello . . . Here’s a secret formula for you. If you were not actively engaged in making yourself miserable, you would be happy. You see, we were born happy. All life is shot through with happiness. There’s pain; of course, but who told you that you can’t be happy without pain? Come and meet a friend of mine who’s dying of cancer. She’s happy in pain. So, we were born…

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Stop Fixing Yourself

From The Way to Love by Anthony DeMello . . . Compare the serene and simple splendor of a rose in bloom with the tensions and restlessness of your life. The rose has a gift that you lack: It is perfectly content to be itself. It has not been programmed from birth, as you have been, to be dissatisfied with itself, so it has not the slightest urge to be anything other than it is. That is…

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Wisdom

From Awareness by Anthony DeMello . . . Let’s talk about effortlessness in change. I thought of a nice image for that, a sailboat. When a sailboat has a mighty wind in its sail, it glides along so effortlessly that the boatman has nothing to do but steer. He makes no effort; he doesn’t push the boat. That’s an image of what happens when change comes about through awareness, through understanding. I was going through some of…

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Selfish

From Awareness by Anthony DeMello . . . Selfishness seems to come out of an instinct for self-preservation, which is our deepest and first instinct. How can we opt for selflessness? It would be almost like opting for non-being. So, stop feeling bad about being selfish; we’re all the same. Someone once had a terribly beautiful thing to say about Jesus. This person wasn’t even Christian. He said, “The lovely thing about Jesus was that he was…

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Getting Rid of Attachments

from quotes of Anthony DeMello . . .  In order to be genuinely happy there is one and only one thing you need to do: get rid of your attachments. So, let’s start by defining what I mean by attachments. An attachment is a state of clinging to something or someone that you believe is necessary for your happiness. Thus, attachments have you thinking, “Unless or until I get or can keep [fill in the…

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Ask Yourself This (#2)

from quotes of Anthony DeMello . . . How many activities can you count in your life that you engage in simply because they delight you and grip your soul? You have probably been brainwashed into believing that your work only achieves maximum value if it becomes popular and sells, which means you are back again into the arms and control of people. The value of work, according to society, is not in its being…

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Ask Yourself This (#1)

from quotes of Anthony DeMello . . . How far can transformation go when it is attempted from a state of inner conflict? Take a look at the sad condition when you are often dissatisfied with yourself, often wanting to change yourself. Think of the sad history of your efforts at self-improvement, that either ended in failure or succeeded only at the cost of struggle and pain. Consider how you suffer when you see others…

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Whole and Holy

from The Way to Love by Anthony DeMello . . .  It is not what you do that brings you the holiness that makes you whole. Holiness is not a prize that you can win or a change you can acquire by practicing some technique or a commodity that you can purchase from someone selling it. What matters is not what you do, but what you are and what you become. Holiness comes from within;…

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Every Child has a God Inside

From Awareness by Anthony DeMello . . . The great Scottish educator, A. S. Neill (1883-1973), founded an experimental school called Summerhill which, a hundred years later, is still thriving. Summerhill is an independent British boarding school run as a democratic community based on the principle that school should be made to fit the child, rather than the other way around.  Here is a powerful quote from A.S. Neill: “Every child has a god in him or…

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