The Litmus Test of Love

From The Way to Love by Anthony DeMello . . . It is commonly held that it is only when you feel deeply loved yourself, that you are able to go out in love to others. This is not true. A man in love does indeed go out to the world not in love but in euphoria. For him the world takes on an unreal, rosy hue, which it loses the moment the euphoria dies. His so-called…

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The Bright Side of Suffering

From The Way to Love by Anthony DeMello . . . Think  of  some  of  the  painful  events  in your life. For how many of them are you grateful today, because thanks to them you changed and grew? Here is a simple truth of life that most people never discover. Every painful event contains in itself a seed of growth and liberation. Happy events make life delightful but they do not lead to self-­discovery and growth and…

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The Four Qualities of Love

From The Way to Love by Anthony DeMello . . . What is love? Take a look at a rose. Is it possible for the rose to say, “I shall? offer my fragrance to good people and withhold it from bad people?” Or can you imagine a lamp that withholds its rays from a wicked person who seeks to walk in its light? It could only do that by ceasing to be a lamp. And observe how…

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Take This Into the New Year

from Awareness by Anthony DeMello . . . Happy new year from the DeMello Spirituality Center. Here are a few items that belong on your new year’s list of resolution for 2020. To live an aware life. We live mechanical lives, generated from automatic thoughts and emotions in reaction to whatever the outside world is doing or not doing at the moment.  A mechanical life is perpetually focused on what is happening out there and…

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Wake Up!

From Awareness by Anthony DeMello . . . Wake up. Put on a new mind. All is well. We are surrounded by a loving, joyful force and the only tragedy is that we are blind to it. Life is a banquet and the tragedy is that most people are starving to death. There’s a story about some people who were on a raft off the coast of Brazil perishing from thirst. They had no idea that the…

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The Classroom of Yourself

From The Way to Love by Anthony DeMello . . . There is always someone to teach you things mechanical or scientific or mathematical like carpentry or algebra or chemistry, or intellectual things like literature or philosophy or athletic things like baseball or riding a bicycle or hi-tech things like operating a computer or a smart phone. But in the things that really matter, life, love, reality, God, no one can teach you a thing. All they…

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The Day You See It, You’re Free

From Rediscovering Life by Anthony DeMello . . . Here’s a secret formula for you. If you were not actively engaged in making yourself miserable, you would be happy. You see, we were born happy. All life is shot through with happiness. There’s pain; of course, but who told you that you can’t be happy without pain? Come and meet a friend of mine who’s dying of cancer. She’s happy in pain. So, we were born…

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Stop Fixing Yourself

From The Way to Love by Anthony DeMello . . . Compare the serene and simple splendor of a rose in bloom with the tensions and restlessness of your life. The rose has a gift that you lack: It is perfectly content to be itself. It has not been programmed from birth, as you have been, to be dissatisfied with itself, so it has not the slightest urge to be anything other than it is. That is…

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Wisdom

From Awareness by Anthony DeMello . . . Let’s talk about effortlessness in change. I thought of a nice image for that, a sailboat. When a sailboat has a mighty wind in its sail, it glides along so effortlessly that the boatman has nothing to do but steer. He makes no effort; he doesn’t push the boat. That’s an image of what happens when change comes about through awareness, through understanding. I was going through some of…

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Getting Rid of Attachments

from quotes of Anthony DeMello . . .  In order to be genuinely happy there is one and only one thing you need to do: get rid of your attachments. So, let’s start by defining what I mean by attachments. An attachment is a state of clinging to something or someone that you believe is necessary for your happiness. Thus, attachments have you thinking, “Unless or until I get or can keep [fill in the…

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