Get over yourself

Imagine you are in a situation or with a person that you find unpleasant and that you would ordinarily avoid. Now try this: Observe how your brain instinctively becomes active, insisting that you avoid this person or situation or try to change them or it. If you stay on there and refuse to change the situation, observe how the brain insists that you experience irritation or anxiety or guilt or some other negative emotion. Now…

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Four steps to wisdom

The first thing you need to do is get in touch with negative feelings that you’re not even aware of. Lots of people are depressed and they’re not aware they are depressed. It’s only when they make contact with joy that they understand how depressed they were. So, the first thing you need is awareness of your negative feelings. What negative feelings? Gloominess, for instance. You’re feeling gloomy and moody. You feel self-hatred or guilt….

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