from The Way to Love by Anthony De Mello . . .
Observe the wisdom that operates in doves and in flowers and in bees and trees — that is there everywhere in the whole of Nature. This kind of Nature-wisdom was once in us, which we are only now beginning to rediscover in so- called primitive peoples who, like the dove, are so simple and wise and balanced, moving through life with trust and harmony.
Have you come to realization yet that every time you strive to improve on Nature by going against it, you damage yourself, for Nature is your very being.
Think of some change that you wish to bring about in your life or in your personality. Are you attempting to force this change on your nature through effort and through the desire to be come something that your ego has planned?
Or are you content to study, observe, understand, be aware of your present state and problems, without pushing, without forcing things that your ego desires, leaving Reality to effect changes according to Nature’s plans, not yours?
Take a look at some of those problems of yours, those changes you desire in yourself, and observe your way of going about it. See how you attempt to bring about change — both in yourself and in others through the use of punishment and reward, blame and guilt, through demands and control, through sermonizing and judging, through greed and pride, ambition and vanity, rather than through loving acceptance and patience, painstaking understanding and vigilant awareness.