Getting Over Yourself

from The Way to Love by Anthony DeMello . . . Imagine you are in a situation or with a person that you find unpleasant and that you would ordinarily avoid. Now try this: Observe how your brain instinctively becomes active, insisting that you avoid this person or situation or try to change them or it. If you stay on there and refuse to change the situation, observe how the brain insists that you experience…

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Heart Broken?

from Awareness by Anthony DeMello . . . A young man came to complain that his girlfriend had let him down, that she had played false. What are you complaining about? I said. Did you expect any better? Expect the worst, you’re dealing with selfish people. You’re the fool — you glorified her, didn’t you? You thought she was a princess, you thought people were nice. They’re not! They’re asleep like you. They seek their…

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What Dependency Gets You

from Awareness by Anthony DeMello . . . We all depend on one another for all kinds of things, don’t we? We depend on the butcher, the baker, the candlestick maker. We set up society this way and we allot different functions to different people for the welfare of everyone, so that we will function better and live more effectively — at least we hope so. That’s interdependence and it’s fine! But to depend on…

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Come Home to Yourself

from Awareness by Anthony DeMello . . . Come home to yourself. Observe yourself. Self-observation is such a delightful and extraordinary thing. After a while you don’t have to make any effort, because, as illusions begin to crumble, you begin to know things that cannot be described. It’s called happiness. There’s the story of the disciple who went to the master and said, “Could you give me a word of wisdom? Could you tell me…

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To Be Happy You Don’t Have To Do Anything

from Awareness by Anthony DeMello . . . Happiness is our natural state. Happiness is the natural state of little children, to whom the kingdom belongs until they have been polluted and contaminated by the stupidity of society and culture. To acquire happiness you don’t have to do anything, because happiness cannot be acquired. Does anybody know why? Because we have it already. How can you acquire what you already have? Then why don’t you…

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Four Steps to Wisdom

from Awareness by Anthony DeMello . . . The first thing you need to do is get in touch with negative feelings that you’re not even aware of. Lots of people are depressed and they’re not aware they are depressed. It’s only when they make contact with joy that they understand how depressed they were. So, the first thing you need is awareness of your negative feelings. What negative feelings? Gloominess, for instance. You’re feeling…

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