The Litmus Test of Love

From The Way to Love by Anthony DeMello . . . It is commonly held that it is only when you feel deeply loved yourself, that you are able to go out in love to others. This is not true. A man in love does indeed go out to the world not in love but in euphoria. For him the world takes on an unreal, rosy hue, which it loses the moment the euphoria dies. His so-called…

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The Bright Side of Suffering

From The Way to Love by Anthony DeMello . . . Think  of  some  of  the  painful  events  in your life. For how many of them are you grateful today, because thanks to them you changed and grew? Here is a simple truth of life that most people never discover. Every painful event contains in itself a seed of growth and liberation. Happy events make life delightful but they do not lead to self-­discovery and growth and…

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The Four Qualities of Love

From The Way to Love by Anthony DeMello . . . What is love? Take a look at a rose. Is it possible for the rose to say, “I shall? offer my fragrance to good people and withhold it from bad people?” Or can you imagine a lamp that withholds its rays from a wicked person who seeks to walk in its light? It could only do that by ceasing to be a lamp. And observe how…

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No Self, No Problem

from Rediscovering Life by Anthony DeMello . . . John Lennon wrote the famous lyric, “Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans.” It’s even worse than that: Life is what happens to you while you’re busy suffering over other things. Here is a perfect image for this. You are at a concert hall and the orchestra is about to play a symphony you love. You’ve settled in your seat, the…

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The One and Only One Thing You Need to Do

from Awareness by Anthony DeMello . . . In order to be genuinely happy there is one and only one thing you need to do. Get rid of attachments. What is an attachment? An attachment is an emotional state of clinging caused by the belief that without some particular thing or some person you cannot be happy. Let’s do a simple exercise to identify your attachments.  Write down on a piece of paper the phrase…

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Immeasurable Wealth

from Rediscovering Life by Anthony DeMello Sometimes a story says more than a whole day’s lecture because it speaks to the depths within us. I want to tell you one of my favorite stories that speaks to the depth of me. It has to do with true happiness. It is a story of a villager in India who happens upon a sannyasi. A sannyasi is the wandering mendicant, who having attained enlightenment, understands that the…

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