From The Way to Love by Anthony DeMello . . . Have you ever felt disgusted with life, sick at heart of constantly running away from fears and anxieties, weary of your begging rounds, exhausted from being dragged about helplessly by your attachments and addictions? Have you ever felt the utter meaninglessness of working for a degree, then finding a job, then settling down to a life of boredom; or, if you are an achiever, settling down…
From The Way to Love by Anthony DeMello . . . Left to its own devices life would never produce love, it would only lead you to attraction, from attraction to pleasure, then to attachment, to satisfaction, which finally leads to wearisomeness and boredom. Then comes a plateau. Then once again the weary cycle: attraction, pleasure, attachment, fulfillment, satisfaction, boredom. All of this mixed with the anxieties, the jealousies, the possessiveness, the sorrow, the pain, that make…
From The Way to Love by Anthony DeMello . . . It is commonly held that it is only when you feel deeply loved yourself, that you are able to go out in love to others. This is not true. A man in love does indeed go out to the world not in love but in euphoria. For him the world takes on an unreal, rosy hue, which it loses the moment the euphoria dies. His so-called…
From The Way to Love by Anthony DeMello . . . Think of some of the painful events in your life. For how many of them are you grateful today, because thanks to them you changed and grew? Here is a simple truth of life that most people never discover. Every painful event contains in itself a seed of growth and liberation. Happy events make life delightful but they do not lead to self-discovery and growth and…
From The Way to Love by Anthony DeMello . . . What is love? Take a look at a rose. Is it possible for the rose to say, “I shall? offer my fragrance to good people and withhold it from bad people?” Or can you imagine a lamp that withholds its rays from a wicked person who seeks to walk in its light? It could only do that by ceasing to be a lamp. And observe how…
from Rediscovering Life by Anthony DeMello . . . John Lennon wrote the famous lyric, “Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans.” It’s even worse than that: Life is what happens to you while you’re busy suffering over other things. Here is a perfect image for this. You are at a concert hall and the orchestra is about to play a symphony you love. You’ve settled in your seat, the…
from Awareness by Anthony DeMello . . . In order to be genuinely happy there is one and only one thing you need to do. Get rid of attachments. What is an attachment? An attachment is an emotional state of clinging caused by the belief that without some particular thing or some person you cannot be happy. Let’s do a simple exercise to identify your attachments. Write down on a piece of paper the phrase…
from Rediscovering Life by Anthony DeMello Sometimes a story says more than a whole day’s lecture because it speaks to the depths within us. I want to tell you one of my favorite stories that speaks to the depth of me. It has to do with true happiness. It is a story of a villager in India who happens upon a sannyasi. A sannyasi is the wandering mendicant, who having attained enlightenment, understands that the…
From The Way to Love by Anthony DeMello . . . Consider your sad condition. You are always dissatisfied with yourself, always wanting to change yourself. So, you are full of violence and self-intolerance which only grows with every effort that you make to change yourself. So, any change you achieve is always accompanied by inner conflict. And you suffer when you see others achieve what you have not and become what you are not. Would you…
From The Way to Love by Anthony DeMello . . . What we call the experience of happiness is not happiness at all but the excitement and thrill caused by some person or thing or event. True happiness is un-caused. You are happy for no reason at all. And true happiness cannot be experienced. It is not within the realm of consciousness. It is un-self-consciousness. Spend some time in becoming aware of the fact that all the…
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