The Four Qualities of Love

From The Way to Love by Anthony DeMello . . . What is love? Take a look at a rose. Is it possible for the rose to say, “I shall? offer my fragrance to good people and withhold it from bad people?” Or can you imagine a lamp that withholds its rays from a wicked person who seeks to walk in its light? It could only do that by ceasing to be a lamp. And observe how…

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No Self, No Problem

from Rediscovering Life by Anthony DeMello . . . John Lennon wrote the famous lyric, “Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans.” It’s even worse than that: Life is what happens to you while you’re busy suffering over other things. Here is a perfect image for this. You are at a concert hall and the orchestra is about to play a symphony you love. You’ve settled in your seat, the…

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The One and Only One Thing You Need to Do

from Awareness by Anthony DeMello . . . In order to be genuinely happy there is one and only one thing you need to do. Get rid of attachments. What is an attachment? An attachment is an emotional state of clinging caused by the belief that without some particular thing or some person you cannot be happy. Let’s do a simple exercise to identify your attachments.  Write down on a piece of paper the phrase…

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Immeasurable Wealth

from Rediscovering Life by Anthony DeMello Sometimes a story says more than a whole day’s lecture because it speaks to the depths within us. I want to tell you one of my favorite stories that speaks to the depth of me. It has to do with true happiness. It is a story of a villager in India who happens upon a sannyasi. A sannyasi is the wandering mendicant, who having attained enlightenment, understands that the…

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Consider Your Sad Condition

From The Way to Love by Anthony DeMello . . . Consider your sad condition. You are always dissatisfied with yourself, always wanting to change yourself. So, you are full of violence and self-intolerance which only grows with every effort that you make to change yourself. So, any change you achieve is always accompanied by inner conflict. And you suffer when you see others achieve what you have not and become what you are not. Would you…

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What We Call Happiness is Not Happiness

From The Way to Love by Anthony DeMello . . . What we call the experience of happiness is not happiness at all but the excitement and thrill caused by some person or thing or event. True happiness is un-caused. You are happy for no reason at all. And true happiness cannot be experienced. It is not within the realm of consciousness. It is un-self-consciousness. Spend some time in becoming aware of the fact that all the…

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Paranoid Runs Deep

From The Way to Love by Anthony DeMello . . . Each time you are anxious and afraid, it is because you may lose or fail to get the object of your attachment, isn’t it? And each time you feel jealous, isn’t it because someone may make off with what you are attached to? And almost all your anger comes from someone standing in the way of your attachment, doesn’t it? And see how paranoid you become…

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Short Cut to Inner Peace

from The Way to God for Today by Anthony DeMello . . . There is no formula for instant peace. You must make the time to cultivate peace.  But some of you might be thinking, “I don’t have the time to give to it.” For those of you who think this way, I suggest trying a simple practice for quieting the mind that you can do while driving your car.  As you drive along, simply…

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Take This Into the New Year

from Awareness by Anthony DeMello . . . Happy new year from the DeMello Spirituality Center. Here are a few items that belong on your new year’s list of resolution for 2020. To live an aware life. We live mechanical lives, generated from automatic thoughts and emotions in reaction to whatever the outside world is doing or not doing at the moment.  A mechanical life is perpetually focused on what is happening out there and…

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Peace is Found in Yes

from A way to God for Today by Anthony DeMello . . . The vast majority of what causes your peace of mind to be swept away are situations that you cannot change or do not control Meditation and prayer can help build the power to sustain inner peace in spite of these difficulties, but not everyone has the patience or the perseverance for such practices. For those people, I suggest two simple spiritual exercises…

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