No Self, No Problem

from Rediscovering Life by Anthony DeMello . . . John Lennon wrote the famous lyric, “Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans.” It’s even worse than that: Life is what happens to you while you’re busy suffering over other things. Here is a perfect image for this. You are at a concert hall and the orchestra is about to play a symphony you love. You’ve settled in your seat, the…

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The One and Only One Thing You Need to Do

from Awareness by Anthony DeMello . . . In order to be genuinely happy there is one and only one thing you need to do. Get rid of attachments. What is an attachment? An attachment is an emotional state of clinging caused by the belief that without some particular thing or some person you cannot be happy. Let’s do a simple exercise to identify your attachments.  Write down on a piece of paper the phrase…

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Immeasurable Wealth

from Rediscovering Life by Anthony DeMello Sometimes a story says more than a whole day’s lecture because it speaks to the depths within us. I want to tell you one of my favorite stories that speaks to the depth of me. It has to do with true happiness. It is a story of a villager in India who happens upon a sannyasi. A sannyasi is the wandering mendicant, who having attained enlightenment, understands that the…

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Consider Your Sad Condition

From The Way to Love by Anthony DeMello . . . Consider your sad condition. You are always dissatisfied with yourself, always wanting to change yourself. So, you are full of violence and self-intolerance which only grows with every effort that you make to change yourself. So, any change you achieve is always accompanied by inner conflict. And you suffer when you see others achieve what you have not and become what you are not. Would you…

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What We Call Happiness is Not Happiness

From The Way to Love by Anthony DeMello . . . What we call the experience of happiness is not happiness at all but the excitement and thrill caused by some person or thing or event. True happiness is un-caused. You are happy for no reason at all. And true happiness cannot be experienced. It is not within the realm of consciousness. It is un-self-consciousness. Spend some time in becoming aware of the fact that all the…

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Paranoid Runs Deep

From The Way to Love by Anthony DeMello . . . Each time you are anxious and afraid, it is because you may lose or fail to get the object of your attachment, isn’t it? And each time you feel jealous, isn’t it because someone may make off with what you are attached to? And almost all your anger comes from someone standing in the way of your attachment, doesn’t it? And see how paranoid you become…

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